Let’s Talk About It

All too often I believe some of the best friendships are destroyed over lack of communication.  Someone may say something or do something that leaves the other feeling offended and often it was a big misunderstanding.  So instead of us going to that person and saying something about it like seeking out some resolution and understanding, we allow that thing to fester until it does exactly what the enemy wanted in the first place, which is to destroy another friendship. 

A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

Proverbs 18:24

Assumptions are one of the worse things I believe any of us can do without any hard concrete evidence.  We know the enemy has a way of making something look the exact opposite of what was intended.  So, here we are amid this storm brewing…  Our feelings are hurt, so we are really starting to overthink the whole matter.  And the more we think upon it the storm starts to take on more strength and develops into a whole hurricane.  And in the wake thereof is left much destruction, a shattered friendship!  We must be able to rightfully discern the voice of God and know when it is a stranger voice that is trying to have us all discombobulated and too often the wrong voice succeeds. 

For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.

Ecclesiastes 4:10

So, I have learned…. Let us talk about it.  I believe at one point in my life they could have put a picture of myself next to the word assumption in the dictionary.   I did not have time to go chasing anyone, asking them “what is wrong” and so on…  Thank God for deliverance huh?  You see in the process of this gift called life, I have learned that it is not always about me, sometimes we are all misunderstood, so instead of assuming, let us at least try to understand.  Most of the time it really is not what we “assumed” it to be and instead of wallowing in the unknown, let us finds out what it really is and take back our peace. 

Lesson I learned and hope all who read this take away from this:

Never allow the enemy to sow discord between you and your friends.  True friendship is rare, when you have been blessed with it, hold on to it, protect it…

How good and pleasant it is when God’s people live together in unity!

Psalms 133:1


Strong One

This morning I woke up, got out of bed, made the bed, put on some clothes and went on about my usual morning routine…  Not expecting anything to be different from any other morning.  Now, this routine usually consists of your typical morning grooming, checking on my two dogs, making sure they are fed, putting on a pot of coffee and then taking them out to go potty.  Once that is done, I do a 30-minute workout, shower and then have a healthy breakfast.  You see, I am on a goal to take better care of myself by eating better and exercising daily.  This is pretty much my routine every morning before I go to work; however, this morning proved to be a bit different…

The difference happened after I took my shower…  Upon stepping out the shower I was suddenly flooded with grief.  I was completely taken aback by it, and with it came a flood of memories accompanied with a fresh onslaught of tears.  I then realized that I never properly grieved the loss of not one but both of my parents.  I remember trying to be strong for everyone around me hence stagnating my own grieving process and now here we are six years later after losing my father and 3 following the loss of my mother, I am reminded that I must release them, by releasing the grief I have been holding in for all this time.  I must allow myself to truly exhale…  It’s ok to be strong for everyone else, but sometimes you must take care of yourself as well. 

Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort, Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.

1 Corinthians 1:3-4

I believe God was in His still quiet way was giving me permission to feel, for in order to grieve you must allow yourself to feel.  And in order to heal, you must allow yourself to grieve.  It doesn’t really matter how others perceive you, it only matters that you get better.  “I love He that first Loved me, for His love is love everlasting…” (FD).  This to me was God hugging me and telling me that He was with me, He never left me, nor has He ever forsaken me.  He loves me just as I am, in all my imperfections, right where I was in that moment.  He loved me enough to come and see about me.  Little ole me.  And He being my creator, knowing the innermost parts of; knowing my rising and my laying down, He knew that I would not want an audience, just an intimate moment shared with the Father and me.

The lesson I learned today, is take a moment Strong One, and be strong for yourself as well. Take the time to face the things that may seem too hard to face alone, know that you are truly never alone. The great Comforter is there waiting for you to lean on Him in your time of weakness, rest assured that He will indeed make you strong. “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” (Psalms 147:3). So beloved, remember, “Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted. Know this today, whatever heartache you are going through, God who is true to His living Word, will come and comfort you… Yes, little ole you…

And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ’s sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong.  I am become a fool in glorying; ye have compelled me: for I ought to have been commended of you: for in nothing am I behind the very chiefest apostles, though I be nothing.

2 Corinthians 12:9-11


Exalt God more Self less

 Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time.

1 Peter 5:6

We are now living in a time of unrest…  There is no question of it, for all you have to do is turn on the television and listen to the news or log into social media and it’s there as well.  Whether it is related to this pandemic, political disparities, racial profiling or an unjust justice system; we are surrounded with unrest.  And in this time God is raising up His prophets to speak what thus says He, but in that we need to be careful to never exalt ourselves.  We are servants who only need to be obedient and do the task the Lord has given us to do.  Speak what thus says the Lord, without bringing any attention to self, because we must remember God’s word which says, “Thou art worthy, O Lord, to receive glory and honour and power:  for thou has created all things, and for thy pleasure they are and were created.”  (Revelations 4:11).  All the glory, honor and praise belong to the Lord God, and we as “servants” must operate in the spirit of humility.

But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble.

James 4:6

So in our servitude, we should always remain humble, for it isn’t about us, but doing the work the Lord has commissioned us to do.   We don’t have to announce who we are by means of any title except that we are servants of the Lord.  I find that we can all become guilty of trying to prove ourselves to man, by means of our titles are even our gifts. When the word of God plainly states to “study to show thyself approved to “God.”  Then you have the mentality of my brother and my sister….  There is One Body…The Body of Christ and if we are all a part of that One Body, why is it that you can refer to this one as a sister or brother in Christ, but the other one who fellowships in another “building” is overlooked.  This isn’t the spirit of God…  This is a flesh move…  Meaning you are sowing discord which is one of the things that the Word of God says that He hates.   We have to get it together, and yes I am saying, we, because like I have stated earlier…. We are all guilty of it because we “all “ fall short.  We as a body of believers have to stop sowing division amongst ourselves. 

For there is no respect of persons with God.

Romans 2:11

We have to stop acting as though we are the only one’s hearing from God.  God has and is using His chosen all over the world and some times it is the ones you least expect.  Let us stop judging people by what our carnal eyes see and ask the Lord to show us their heart.  It’s not a competition, it’s a gift and anointing that is on loan from the Most High.  This is what ushers in the spirit of jealousy, but that’s a whole other post.  Bottom line, let us start exalting God more and self less.  He deserves all the glory, all the honor and all the praise.  It is His and His alone.

These six things doth the Lord hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him:A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood,An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief, A false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren.

Proverbs 6:16-19


Voices Crying in the Wilderness

It has been a little while since I have written anything; then this happened.  Another senseless act of violence, of yet another innocent life being taken.   As he cried out for his mother, I found myself crying with him and for him.  And still, as hard as it was to watch, I could not bring myself to turn away.  This is a scene, like many others that will forever be imprinted in my mind and on my heart…  A person in a position of authority that chose to abuse that authority and all for what?  What gave him the right to take the life of George Floyd?

Being the mother of two black men not to mention my husband and countless family members; it not only grieves me, I feel angry.  I am angry because we are part of this country that cries freedom, yet we as a black people are still being enslaved.  It does not matter what our address is, or how many degrees we may possess or if we just one of the nicest people on this God-given earth, we are still seen by “many” as less than.  I want someone to know and realized that we do feel pain because we are human.  We are fearfully and wonderfully made by the same God; the one true living God that made you.  Yes, you the one who sees our many shades of brown as less than.

And now, I not only grieve for the loss of another brother and the impact that it will have on his entire family; I grieve for those that still refuse to repent and turn away from the wickedness of racism. I grieve for a nation divided… How can a person say they love God whom they have never seen, but cannot love their brothers and sisters just because they are a different shade of love? God is love and we are all created in His image. If you find it hard to love someone just because they look differently from you, who is it you really serve? I myself, am a descendant of African American, Caucasian (Anglo, European-American) and Native American, but when most look at me all they see is my brown skin. Everything is based upon appearances and never taking the time to truly get to know the individual. And this is the case for many of us, we never take the time to get to know the individual, and most importantly realized we are all made of flesh and blood. None is greater than the other, because in the eyes of God, we are all the same.

So now, we have people of all races all over the nation, coming together in the true spirit of unity, protesting for a just, justice system. Not just here but also abroad, because the voices are crying in the wilderness; being a light in a world that has grown so very dark. My petition to all is not let it stop here… Do not allow it to become a distant memory that we talk about 10 years from now… Let us cry and cry loud and continue to fight for not just George Floyd, but for the many others that have lost their lives to racism, hate and bigotry. Let us remember those who have come before us whose blood cries from the ground and continue to do what we know to be righteousness and justice in the eyes of God and not man! My plea is for us all to continue to be a light in the dark and choose not to ever blend in, even if you must do it alone…


Let us remember…

For God shows no partiality.  All who have sinned apart from the law will also perish apart from the law, and all who have sinned under the law will be judged by the law. For it is not the hearers of the law who are righteous in God’s sight, but the doers of the law who will be justified.

Romans 2:11-13

Speak to Me


He is always speaking, but are we listening.  We live in a world today where every other person has some form of a listening device in our ears, whether it is headphones, air pods, it’s always something, all the time…  And we then have the nerve to wonder why we are missing that still small voice of God.  It’s called distractions!  We are faced with so many distractions already today and technology just keep obliging us with more ways to keep us just where the enemy want us; distracted, hindered, stagnant and missing the smallest, yet loudest voice to any man or woman that is filled with the Spirit of God.

How do He speak to us?  Through prayer, not just reading but studying the Word, through fasting and allowing ourselves to be taught through ministry.  I say allowing, because many of us go today ready to dissect and not necessarily receive the Word that is going forth.  We instead listen for something we think is wrong, waiting for the opportunity to pounce on the man of woman of God, instead asking God to allow you to discern what in the message is for you.

I started asking God to show me, me.  I wanted to know why I was missing His voice and I realized it was because I was allowing myself to be distracted.  God had to show me that the enemy had no power, except what I gave to him.  So, I realized I had to press through some things.  I had to stop giving my power away; I had to press through somethings because He never stopped talking to me, I just stopped listening.  How can you obey if you are not listening?  This reality had me feeling some type of way about my own self.  You see, I wasn’t looking at anyone else and what they weren’t doing, He had me examining my own self.  For His word states, “Examine yourselves, whether ye be in the faith; prove your own selves. Know ye not your own selves, how that Jesus Christ is in you, except ye be reprobates?” I do not want to be a person rejected by God.

My petition to all in this hour, no longer allow yourself to be distracted.  Spend time with Him, so that you can rightfully discern His voice.  He loves you and wants the best for you.  He wants to lead, guide and direct you in all truths. He wants to make know to you, yes you, “what is the riches of the glory of this mystery among the Gentiles; which is Christ in you, the hope of glory…  But to receive, you have to hear, to hear we have to listen…  Speak to me Lord, I’m listening.


And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart.

Jeremiah 29:13

Faithfully Blessed


70488-davide-cantelli-h3gijctww-unsplash-1.1200w.tnA faithful man shall abound with blessings: but he that maketh haste to be rich shall not be innocent.

Proverbs 28:20

What defines a faithful person?  In layman terms we could say, “having someone’s back, that friend that sticks closer than a brother, the spouse that has eyes only for the one he is betrothed to, the employee that will never steal out the cash register or even the child that will never disobey his or her parents.  All these examples represent the term well enough, however, I believe that most notable form of the word “faithful” would best be defined as being completely sold out to God.  Unwavering faith and devotion in honoring His Word by obeying His Word.  In this, I do believe we not only become whole, but faithfully blessed.

The Lord render to every man his righteousness and his faithfulness; for the Lord delivered thee into my hand to day, but I would not stretch forth mine hand against the Lord’s anointed.

1 Samuel 26:23

In our faithfulness to our Lord, we must remain mindful in how we treat people.  Honoring God is honoring our word to our brothers and sisters. Foremost, I feel there is a great work to be done within the Body of Christ… The Word of God does states, “For the time is come that judgment must begin at the house of God: and if it first begin at us, what shall the end be of them that obey not the gospel of God?” (1 Peter 4:17).  Our Christianity in some instances has become tainted with statuses and edifices, causing a falling away from our first love.  We have become more faithful to a form of godliness, by denying His power.  We, as a body of believers have got to get back in position and remember why we were created in the first place, and that is to serve God.  We were created for His pleasure, not our own.  This is not to say He does not want us to prosper or be happy, of course He desires for us to have a good life, but we must remember to be charitable at the same time.  Proverbs 11:25 says, “The generous soul will be made rich, And he who waters will also be watered himself.”  This, I do believe speaks volumes!

 Thou art worthy, O Lord, to receive glory and honour and power: for thou hast created all things, and for thy pleasure they are and were created.

Revelations 4:11

A phrase I use often, “when we know better, we should do better”.  I stand in judgement of no one.   This is a self-examination process for everyone, I myself included.  Are we truly being faithful to God by applying His Word to our lives?  He is a merciful God, full of grace which is indeed, abundant…  He is and has been long-suffering to each of us on so many countless occasions, yet still…  Still, so many refuses to humble themselves under His mighty hand and fully surrender unto His will.  Let us no longer be the one who answers the call to a stranger’s voice, but only to the One True Living God, who offers each of us a simple request, simply saying; come…  Let us this day not choose to just be blessed, but faithfully blessed.


Fear none of those things which thou shalt suffer: behold, the devil shall cast some of you into prison, that ye may be tried; and ye shall have tribulation ten days: be thou faithful unto death, and I will give thee a crown of life.

Revelations 2:10

Which Team Are You Cheering For?


Let’s imagine for a moment you are at the game of all games; and the winner of this game will determine your final destiny, meaning you must be cheering for the right team.  You have team white and team black, team white represents all that is good and acceptable in the eyes of man while black represents what is deemed to be bad, corrupt and each player is believed to have this undesirable ominous look about them.  So of course, there in the stands there are people cheering for both teams but are they sure of what exactly they are cheering for.

What were the determining factors that made you choose the team you chose?  Was/is it based upon factual information or did you decide based on the colors they were wearing and how they looked?  Or was it what someone else said that caused you to choose the team.  You see, I learned long ago, that looks can deceive the best of us.  Just because the team looks like some questionable characters doesn’t mean that they are.  It could be because they worked very hard to get to where they were, and the battle wounds left a different kind of scar on them…  While the team dressed in white were thought to look pristine and together, well-oiled and trained, this could have been a most intricate disguise.  Kind of reminds me of the scripture that says, “Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.”  (2 Timothy 3:5).  So, God, forbid that any of us was to be deceived by cheering for the wrong team, hence sealing our faith to a place that looks nothing like what they were cheering for.

We have to learn to look beyond the outer appearances in order to determine what really lies beneath the surface. What looks good on the outside is sometimes much worse than what we may have perceived it to be.  This doesn’t mean that everything that looks good isn’t good and everything that looks bad isn’t bad, but it is saying that we should look beyond the cover of the book before deciding what the story is all about.  Sometimes we are rooting for the wrong team.  We should not just examine the motives of the players, but our own motive for our choices as well.  We can learn a lot about ourselves if we study the Word of God and not just preach it but apply it to our own lives. I believe this particular verse is one that every believer knows, but not always apply to their lives; “Examine yourselves, whether ye be in the faith; prove your own selves. Know ye not your own selves, how that Jesus Christ is in you, except ye be reprobates?”  (2 Corinthian 13:5).

Let us then, now knowing better, choose to do better…


Fitly Joined


Fitly Joined

Why is it that we say we all serve the same God, the one true living God, the only One where it is written saying, with Him “there is no respect of persons”, yet still we are allowing the enemy to divide us. We serve the same God, but we just can’t come together…Churches are talking about one another, because many are seeking followers of self and not necessarily followers of our Lord Jesus. Are our eyes open, are our ears really hearing what the Spirit of the Lord is saying …? Are we building kingdoms for ourselves or for the Kingdom of God? Are we operating in a spirit of pride or a spirit of humility…? Are we talking about people or are we praying for them?

Ok, so you’re a Prophet, Apostle, Evangelist, Teacher or Pastor; not one of those titles make you better than anyone else, for God sees you the same as that homeless man that has a prayer life in-spite of his circumstance. When are we going to realize that we are the church…Not the building, not the huge edifices that many have built for themselves…You are the church…Can we agree to pray for unity in the Body of Christ, being certain that this is indeed the body we are a part of…The word of God tells us to “examine ourselves”; but we have grown accustomed to examining everyone except ourselves. We call ourselves Christians, yet we are knowingly being rude to one another, we have stank, yes, I said stank superior attitudes towards one another, and it ought not to be so. “If a man says, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen?” (1 John 4:20)

Ephesians 4:16-18 reads, “From whom the whole body fitly joined together and compacted by that which every joint supplieth, according to the effectual working in the measure of every part, maketh increase of the body unto the edifying of itself in love. (17)This I say therefore, and testify in the Lord, that ye henceforth walk not as other Gentiles walk, in the vanity of their mind, (18)Having the understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God through the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart.” Let’s look at these three scriptures… Verse 16 says that we are a body of believers, all professing to be of the same body; the body of Christ, fitly joined, because every part of the body contributes based on the measure thereof adds to the edifying and it’s all done in “love”. Then we look at verse 17 saying, from this moment forward we can no longer do what the heathen do, walking around all puffed up in a spirit of haughtiness; and finally, verse 18 says our understanding has been tainted with darkness and has alienated us from God, because we have refused to get a understanding and our hearts are now blinded by the darkness we have allowed into our lives.

So, I ask again, what body are we all really a part of? Because once we truly come to the saving knowledge of God and His will, it is no longer about us…Our lives are dedicated to pleasing God and not our flesh. We will love our brothers and sisters because the love of God is on the inside of us and we have surrendered our life to be a servant to Him. Willfully working with the other members, fitly joined because we know that we cannot do it by ourselves and most importantly, that what we choose to do and say does not just affect us. So again, I petition the Body of Christ…Let us come together and work together and pray for one another…and most importantly love one another in the spirit of truth, as Christ love the church…Remembering we are the church!

Every way of a man is right in his own eyes: but the Lord pondereth the hearts.

Proverbs 21:2                





There is something rather unique and wonderful about a group of women coming together, sharing prayers, life experiences, encouragement and wisdom with one another. No shame, no holding back, no competition, just a release of emotions that were attempting to hold us in bondage. A release that was made possible all because the Holy Spirit chose to come and grace us with its presence. The great Comforter came and sat with us for a while and granted us the gift of freedom through His all-embracing love. You leave your sisters a littler wiser, stronger and ready to conquer the world.

Sister you inspire me to see myself as He sees me…You reminded me of 2 Timothy 1:7, that you my “God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” No matter what I may face in this life, I can call my sister and she will pray God’s word with me, and we will praise Him for we shall remember that we are fearfully and wonderfully made. Always shall we rejoice in He, for He is our peace. He has made us to be warriors, our sisters’ keepers; we know as we go out to conquer the world that we are fully equipped with God’s armor and we put it on daily. We teach our children the way of the Lord, to be ye Holy for He is a Holy God. We are the Proverbs 31 woman, for the heart of our husbands does safely trust in us, and we only tend to our own…

My sister I will be here for you even when we grow old, we will teach the younger women to be sober, to love their husbands and their children. I promise if I see you on a crooked path, I will guide you back on the straight and narrow. Through this we will teach, and we will learn still…We will serve the Lord all the days of our lives. We shall never leave a sister alone; for when one falls, we shall offer a hand to assist her back up. We shall never think more highly of ourselves than we ought to think but walk in humility for we now know that humility will carry us a long way. We are daughters of the King; daughters of the one true, living God and we will stand together in blessed assurance making certain that the oil in our lamps will always full.

Remember my Sister

No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and their righteousness is of me, saith the LORD.

Isaiah 54:17


Passion on Purpose


What’s your passion?  This is a common question many of us are asked as well as asking ourselves when we are planning for our future…Trying to decide what we want to be when we grow up so to speak…What is it that we like to do?  What are we drawn to and so on?  We should want to spend our time doing something that we are passionate about, but is our passion linked with our purpose?  Let’s start by defining the two…  Purpose is defined as the reason for which something exists or is done, made, used, etc.; while passion is a strong liking or desire for or devotion to some activity, object, or concept.  So, are the things in which we are passionate about lining up with my purpose for which we were created?

In order to know your purpose, pay attention to your passions.  Pay even closer attention to your maker, the one who created you to fulfill a purpose in Him.  We must have a relationship with Him; the almighty, the Creator of the Heaven’s and the Earth…The one who knew us even before we were in our mother’s wombs.  Yes…We must have a relationship with our Creator to even begin to know what that purpose is.  Once the relationship is established in the spirit of truth, I feel God through the gift of the Holy Spirit that dwells on the inside, will give you and me the passion to fulfill that purpose.  With this comes much obedience…Again pay attention…   There is that still, small voice that speaks to us and direct us, but so often we don’t want to listen…  In our disobedience we often find ourselves in a place of discomfort, because we chose to listen to the wrong voice.

John 16:13 says, “Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak:  and he will shew you things to come.”  So the Holy Spirit will speak to you if you will hear Him…He will let you know what you were created to do, and He will gift you the passions as well as the anointing to fulfill that purpose, but we must stay on the course.  Circumstance come nigh to us all, but those circumstances aren’t all designed to take us out….Sometimes they are “allowed” to push us in the right direction and when we finally find ourselves in that place we thought we did not want to be, we then realized that this is exactly where we am supposed to be.  Let us remember, “A man’s gift maketh room for him, and bringeth him before great men.” (Proverbs 18:16).

So, follow the voice of God, remembering it isn’t always the one that’s the loudest, but often the smallest in which speaks volumes. Our God does not make any mistakes; He will lead and guide us in the direction He desires for us to go and it was all decided before we were even in our mother’s wombs. What an awesome God we serve!  So, my petition to the readers, allow your passion to lead you to your purpose and walk in it out in blessed assurance, knowing that it was already preordained just for you.  Your very own blueprint, uniquely and wonderfully you…


Felisha DeJean